A Tribute To My Sister Ruth, (1920-2012)
Up to date on November 2, 2012 Nellieanna Hay moreContact Author Source
Fairly early this morning, Wednesday, May 23, 2012, I received the unhappy news that my solely remaining sibling, and the one other member of my natal household, had handed away, in Corsicana, Texas.
Ruth Lucile Holdeman Sewell would have reached 92 this 12 months.
She was a vivid person, bright, energetic, involved. Professionally she was a trainer. She taught Enterprise, Math, Spanish and ultimately grew to become the Particular Training trainer for Navarro County, Texas. She was an outstanding trainer, in a position to get ‘inside’ her college students to stimulate their studying and activate their responses.
Ruth and Jay met at Baylor College and married shortly after graduation. It wasn’t long before WWII had began and Jay went into military service. He served in Italy and North Africa (Morocco and Libya). She taught college whereas he was overseas, taking positions in Iraan, Texas and Portland, Oregon. When he returned, they first entered right into a partnership with our dad and brother within the agr- enterprise; later Jay went into the Lone Star Fuel Co. Work with that firm and others took them to Jackson, Mississippi, Midland, Texas, Dallas, Texas, until they settled in Blooming Grove, Texas, on a lovely farm. They have a daughter, Carroll, and a son, Roger. Carroll gave them three granddaughters, Vanessa, Georgia, Lyric Ruth.
Ruth continued her teaching and training all through her lifetime; earned her Masters diploma, worked towards her PhD till Jay’s dying and her heath lower the pursuit short of completion.
She even studied Spanish in Mexico, enrolled in university and dwelling with native citizens in their residence to gain proficiency and fluency in the language.
Residing in Dallas in the 1960s, she was in charge of inside designs for Dallas’ first multi-stage urban residence advanced.
She was an excellent student and a Mensa member, as well as an novice actor. Whereas at Baylor, she was a pupil of the good Paul Baker, who encouraged her in acting.
She later turned a charter member of the Dallas Theater Heart, a challenge inspired by Baker and housed in a building designed by Frank Lloyd Wright. She told me that after they decided to move to Blooming Grove, her only stipulation was that she be allowed to commute and to proceed being a member and attending the performances at the Theater Center, to which Jay agreed.
She had many hobbies, among them, taking part in piano, painting, growing roses, prolific studying – and – writing.
A couple of her personal original drafts of a few of her poetry:
This is not an try at an obituary, which will be completed by these extra certified, and will certainly be more technically excellent.
This is my very own private tribute to Ruth’s reminiscence. She was 12 when I used to be born, so was among the people who attended and helped guide me from my earliest days on Earth, along with my beloved mother and father, Elcy and Albert Holdeman, in their 40s when I was born, and my different two siblings, Harriet, who was then 14, and Harold, then 10. It’s no exaggeration to say I grew up amongst ‘giants’, – in peak and in knowledge!
In the following household picture, Harriet is lacking because she was away at college and pop was away on the ranch.
Circa about 1936, Del Rio, Texas. In our house at 600 Garfield Street. I nonetheless have that settee. My hair was auburn-brown Harold was a redhead with mild brown eyes – like Dad; Harriet was a brunette with auburn highlights and inexperienced eyes, a mix of each guardian.
Harold was teased about his curly carrot-prime hair. His buddies gave him the nickname: Hairless Joe, after a character within the Li’l Abner caricature. At times, he was called “Hairless” or “Joe” all the remainder of his life.
Mom had a saying:
If her eyes are blue, ensure that yours are true.
If her eyes are brown, ensure yours do not fall down.
If her eyes are green, swap her with a change that is keen.
If her eyes are black, give her room and many slack!
That last was Ruth, in addition to Mom!!
They have been each quite dramatic, too!
Ruth wanting stunning
Ruth in a burgundy velveteen night gown with Battenburg lace collar and cuffs, designed and made by our mother. Circa: mid nineteen thirties There are so many more footage and memorabilia, but time inhibits displaying all of them – and even finding them. I’ve spent right this moment since studying of Ruth’s passing looking out my keepsake packing containers and drawers to pay special tribute to my last sibling to half the Earth.
This group image under was one of many final this many people have been together at one place and time.
George and that i had the household for Christmas, 1987. My surviving siblings and their spouses with us on back row. Our offspring who could be there and their offspring to date in entrance rows. Companies shall be on the Griffin-Roughton Funeral Residence, 1530 N. 45th St., Corsicana, Texas 75110, (903) 874-4774.
Viewing: 5-7PM, May 24th; Funeral: 2:30PM May 25th on the Baptist Church in Blooming Grove.
For Ruth, my favorite song of religion and Vanessa and Georgia (on the return trip) .
But every little thing on the church and the gravesite was incredible, both the providers and the interplay with family and Ruth’s buddies and associates. Her son, Roger and his wife, Cheryl, were involved in establishing the service. Ruth’s and my nephew, Hal Holdeman, son of our brother, Harold, and his wife, Pam had been there with their support. We had a lovely go to with them riding from church to gravesite together. Harold’s widow, Frances, and their daughter, Harriet Ann, had been there and we bought to speak and renew our emotions for the first time in many years.
She was so beloved and admired, but also she amazed everybody with whom she had contact, from the closest to the casual. Her son, Roger, granddaughters Georgia and Lyric and that i spoke to the group about her, and everyone was in tears or laughter, remembering this unimaginable person and our personal remembrances. I want I had a recording of it. The entire day was stuffed with Ruth – and it couldn’t be gloomy, though there have been tears aplenty.
I saw some family members I have not seen for a few years and some I see only sometimes. The spirit between us all was tangible. Somehow I really feel positive we’ll see each other far more usually now.
Ruth should be smiling. I had bother not anticipating to see her alive and including her particular verve to the occasion! Certainly if being beloved and effectively remembered contributed, she would have been.
It has been so great for me – the reply to many a prayer, in truth.
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Thank you, Integrity. It was emotional, sure.
IntegrityYes 5 years in the past
That tribute is emotional and fantastic.
Oh, Theresa – your heat loving comment actually gave me a pleasing shimmer, a sensory feeling I get after i really feel someone’s spiritual presence with me – as I simply did, yours. Yes, my Ruthie was quite a gal. Just thinking of her, she is so alive. She’ll be missed by many. Thanks on your caring.
Oh yes – Mario Lanza was a phenomenal talent – unique among his style of singers. This explicit music is the one I might prefer to be sung at my funeral – I’ve thought that for 30 or forty years, since I discovered it in one among my Readers Digest piano songbooks and cherished to play it. His rendition is simply splendid. I also remember his “As a result of” and “Be My Love”, two lovely songs, extra associated with weddings!
Theresa Ast 5 years in the past from Atlanta, Georgia
Oh my, dear Nellieanna, I’m so behind on my reading that I didn’t know that your expensive sister had died. I am so very sorry. What an fascinating and assorted and marvelous life she lived. And what a beautiful tribute and beautiful memorial essay you created for her. You and your loved ones are in my prayers.
Oh, I forgot. Lovely, stunning track. It introduced such candy reminiscences to mind. After we 4 have been youngsters money was very tight, but my mother and father had in some way acquired a cheap used report player they usually each liked music. I remember no other data however I grew up with the music of Mario Lanza because the backdrop of my life. 🙂
Aw, Dallas, – effectively , at 12, it was among the issues I believed I would prefer to turn into, together with astronomer, ballerina and femme fatale. 🙂 I read too many encyclopedias and my elder sisters’ racy Ilka Chase novels, I guess. Severely, I recognize your form ideas and return to go to my hub. Warm hugs shared!
You need to be a philosopher! Your eager perception and articulate expressions of feelings and ideas are outstanding! Thanks to your sharing and a warm hug to you!
Hiya, Svetlana! This is such a pleasure to see you, my dear! It has been quite awhile!
Thank you to your condolences. She actually was extraordinary, as you noticed! It is a good loss, though of all my siblings, she’s the only one who lived an extended life and died peacefully. The opposite two have been both in fatal accidents, one at 35 and the other at 68, which was far earlier than either of their instances to go. I am much more at peace about Ruth’s dying.
I remember sufficient of my Spanish to translate your candy salutation. Thank you; – and Ruth would tremendously admire your utilizing Spanish, her second language, during which she was fluent!
kallini2010 5 years in the past from Toronto, Canada
Pricey Nellieanna, I’m sorry, I didn’t know.
My deepest condolences on your loss. You had been blessed to have such an extraordinary lady for a sister and you have been blessed with the family you had.
It’s a wonderful tribute as solely can do.
Abrazos me amongst them, I am sure! But, then, wherever ‘that and there’ is, it’s certainly unlimited by ways it is restricted right here! haha.
Her true emotions are being seen transparently and obtained there, I’ll bet. So it wouldn’t be the polite variations, however the very, very trustworthy ones. I am counting on our greatest instances collectively being the ones recalled and shared ‘up there’. The tense ones, – nicely – I will guess she sees through any which have been cross-methods and asks for forgiveness of each of us for being too human! I do know she was GOOD. That is what grabs me.
For now I’m just smiling about the folks whose lives have been influenced by her right here. She beloved her kids and grandkids a lot and I’ve been particularly aware of how intentionally she made sure to help them all she may. Now that I have been with them all, I see her influence in them, possibly especially the one named for her – younger Lyric Ruth, her youngest granddaughter. The love between them is so apparent. It meant lots to me.
Thank you for a lovely comment.
b. Malin 5 years in the past
Oh Nellieanna, what a wonderful Tribute to a Fantastic Sister and Good friend. What a superb Lady she was…Seems like she put a whole lot of Residing into her ninety two years…She’d have loved what you wrote about her and is now in all probability Smiling down at you! I am sure she is telling Wonderful Tales about You to the Angels she meets.
Christopher what a lovely comment. We had been so totally different in so some ways, yet so akin. Strolling and speaking among those who came to pay last respects was like being amongst her fan membership. Everybody had definitely recollections and associations with her, no two alike, but her personality permeated each certainly one of them. I can have little question that every of us can be struck by the void she left in our lives, however probably at the identical time as the consciousness of what an impact she had on them. She was a personality!
I learned one other reason she didn’t finish her PhD. Her son, Roger, talked about a significant cause was that she mislaid her thesis she was writing! In fact her days were very stuffed with tasks and pursuits, so I can visualize that she simply didn’t get back to attempting to find it amongst her MANY things and distractions.
Thanks for these lovely sort phrases, pricey buddy.
Dimitris,pricey, dear good friend, – It is exhausting to describe, but it’s not as unhappy as it is perhaps. I defined to my niece that, although I’ve lost most of my peers and era by outliving them, I’m ridiculously non-funeral literate. The spirit of the person occasion and the person it highlights is what moves me, relatively than obligatory weeping and wailing or observing sure guidelines.
I discover myself anticipating her to be ‘proper here’ and, sure, I’ll shed tears and feel the grief, in fact, but, actually – I feel more that I’ve gained a sister than having misplaced her, in addition to regaining the remainder of the family again to my bosom – and vice versa. Her nature simply precludes being long-faced – (until completely so; as she may very well be Really darkish and with my well being – and it was not what one would call ‘reverent’.
Jaye Denman 5 years ago from Deep South, USA
Dearest Nellieanna….This is a phenomenal tribute to your sister, Ruth. It is an exquisite way to honor her life, writing about her, sharing photos and samples of Ruth’s writings. I hope the making of this hub was truly helpful to you.
I, too, have reached for photos and different memorabilia when confronted with sudden grief in my life, permitting reminiscences of happier occasions to wash over me like a healing balm. I do know it could present a extra constructive parallel to the ache of loss. Not everyone is ready to face the past immediately, but in doing so, you’ve not only allowed your self to “really feel” your reminiscences, however ready a very particular tribute to your sister as nicely. I consider Ruth would appreciate it (and you), for this tribute reveals your love for and admiration of her.
God bless and strengthen you and all Ruth’s surviving household.
daisyflowrs 5 years ago from Richmond, VA
We’re saddened to listen to of your sister’s passing. As a fellow particular schooling teacher, I do know her ardour (if you do not have it, you do not make it). My little hubbers are diligently typing away. Little isn’t the right time period. I’m the smallest individual in the room with the exception of 1. Our condolences.
Ah,Dallas – 🙂 Thank you.
I used to be about so as to add that Harriet was foxy sufficient to know that a full dance card will beat out a full home of high grade averages any day or night of the year, together with Leap Year, if not Particularly LEAP Yr! 🙂 Hers was at all times full and she was at all times the bell of the ball, leaving Ruth to be the Valedictorian or President of the Lepidopterological Society or whatever her latest curiosity! (She delved into a lot of them but – I just needed to know when it was “sufficient” for one hub.
Harriet’s abilities ran to extra tangibles – designing and making beautiful things, cooking and decoration: pursuits and skills we shared and which focused in most of my earlier life. Harold was a mechanical and engineering inventor and genius. I only found a hint of that in myself later in life, which stunned me and would have knocked his sox off! He appreciated magnificence but let others create it.
I am sure Ruth’s life (as all three of theirs) entitles them to locations of distinction up there. I actually hope so! I would type of wish to see them after i arrive! We should have some unfinished business! 😉
Thanks for wishing Ruth one.
Dallas W Thompson 5 years in the past from Bakersfield, CA
I knew there was a huge intellect “device chest in your creativity.” Ruth being a Mensa member says lots… it should run within the household.
Your sister displays your own zest for life being aware and alert.
Your optimistic outlook (“The challenge has been wonderfully good for my coronary heart – and those sources nonetheless await being put again up so I can move round my room without tripping on them! The method reminds me of my – er – maturity and right this moment I really feel it, actually! But in the process I see all sorts of fascinating issues I would love to preserve extra accessibly so they can be extra immediately accessible too. There’s a world of history up there. As I’ve mentioned to you, I am an archiver / chronicler at coronary heart. And with much sources from which to draw & to build! Sometime. . .
The challenge has been wonderfully good for my heart & memories, if less so for my back and eyes, though. However so totally worth it.
Your sentence says it perfectly: “(t)Here (I) can smile because the years of sistership are lived again and love is rekindled from memory to memory.” Yes! Thanks, most pricey buddy!
Hal, my beloved nephew – that is a fitting tribute you’ve got created for your Aunt Ruth. I am so glad you got here by & left your comment. If solely I could round up and make pages for all the great family footage I have, including some that return into the generation before your grandparents! Some are to date back, they’re tin-types and a few have already fully pale. Even the early images was unstable and plenty of are fading. Unfortunately, although your Grandaddy was good about labeling, not all inform who the people are, and of course, I don’t recognize them all.
I received your e-mail and can be answering it shortly. Thank you, expensive Hal. ( While you ever get time, you could be curious about HubPages.)
snakeslane 5 years in the past from Canada
Dear Nellieanna, I too am so sorry on your loss. I can see you’ve gotten fantastic memories of your big sister. Such delightful photos and family memorabilia you will have posted here. Thanks for including these treasured hand written poems. Ruth’s abilities are deep, clearly creativity runs within the family. Regards, snakeslane
Faith Reaper 5 years ago from southern USA
Dearest Nellieanna, I am so sorry for your loss. That is an exquisite, beautiful tribute to your fantastic sister. Ruth was so very taleneted in lots of areas, and her poetry is outstanding!!! Thanks for sharing. It is evident that you simply and your loved ones are blessed with many skills indeed! God bless you. In His Love, Faith Reaper
Vincent Moore 5 years in the past
My condolences I ship to you my good friend. You may have honored your sister and family with this wonderful tribute to your sister and them. I see marked resemblances of you in her and even in your writing type. She to was a gifted lady and her skilled life actually attests to that.
Thanks for sharing this great tribute and will your sister be strolling in peace on the opposite facet and our maker given her a place of honor. You might be left with so many nice memories of your loved ones. Peace and blessings to you expensive pal.
arb 5 years in the past from oregon
Properly executed Nellieanna, in a single day, however, I do know of no one with files more intensive or extra immediately obtainable. A worthy tribute to your sister and I’m sure, one that brings her to the forefront of your memory. There you may smile as the years of sistership are lived once more and love is rekindled from memory to reminiscence.
happyhal 5 years ago
these are so sweet. Many Pictures I’ve by no means seen before. Thanks for the attractive and respectful memorial.
I pray for you and your family to experience the peace and presence of the Lord at this time
Haiku for Ruth
Reminiscence of Ruth,
Inquiring mind at all times,
Right here life can be missed.
Rosemary, I deeply respect your condolences. It appears like a warm embrace. Sure, she was lovely, wasn’t she, although she was always in Harriet’s shadow. Ruth actually gave it little thought and was more fascinated in the issues of the thoughts, while Harriet appeared just naturally to know what to do, say and how you can present herself so beautifully. I started writing a tribute awhile back to Harriet, who died in 1953 very young – at 35 – in a horrible accident which took her total family and from which I barely escaped being with them. It does my coronary heart especial good now to offer Ruth her due. I would have wanted to do it even if her death hadn’t prompted it.
Typically the issues we delay doing are simply determined for us. However I know she would admire it in the deepest sense. I at all times thought her very stunning.
Yes – so many memories are being stirred. Thanks, expensive cyber family daughter, (if I may call you that, since you’re cyber sister to my different cyber daughter and my actual stepson!) – thank you to your visit and comments. You’ve meant a lot to me in Michael’s behalf, as effectively.
Ian, my expensive, pricey pal – thank you especially for these heartfelt condolences and for what I read between the traces and feel some tears of real sympathy dampening the web page. It has been a really amazing day for me. Some individuals simply really do not seem meant to be stopped and she was considered one of them. It is an unwelcome shock and shock, to say the least.
Rob, that could be a most gratifying comment. It’s so potent with thought and ideas, that I’ll ponder it longer. Ruth would have loved it to the fullest. I might by no means considered the number of DAYS she’d actually lived on this Earth – but simply consider it! Superb. And each one in every of them was uniquely her personal.
Itemizing the various accomplishments and interests solely touches upon a life so uniquely lived as hers. I can pause and picture so many acts of Dwelling she DID – all in animation and stuffed with sight, sound, – the works. She would literally BURST into my entrance door and overwhelm me with a big hug while putting some of her garden’s loveliest roses in my hand and asking if I would learn some book she had on her thoughts. Sometimes it was maddening and lots of extra instances, endearing – and always, all the time unforgettable. She wasn’t Simple, in many ways. However she was genuine, intelligent, artistic and an expertise who did play a most significant half in this world’s story, certainly in her baby sister’s.
You’re so proper – it is a mere glimpse of a person to try to capture in simply 898 phrases and 10 photographs a life of 33,430 vibrant days, even subtracting the days when she succumbed to gloom and people toward the top when she was pretty much out of it. If I know her, she was still surprising of us together with her wit and charm – and the twinkle in her eye at instances – even then.
Thank you for coming and sharing your response to her story. It is gratifying by and via. And thank you for the ‘doesn’t want clarification. None is any extra potential than simply to feel it and attempt to share it. – Hugs, Nellieanna
Rosemary Sadler 5 years in the past from Hawkes Bay – NewZealand
Nellieanna my condolences on the passing of your sister Ruth. She was actually very lovely and very proficient, the unique doodles beneath her poetry are delightful. You must have had so many memories each wonderful and unhappy floating by way of your mind as you searched for these lovely pictures.
This is a ravishing tribute. Thanks for sharing this with us
Twilight Lawns 5 years ago from Norbury-sur-Mer, Surrey, England. U.Okay.
Condolences to you, my expensive buddy.
What a lovely and very low key remembrance of your pricey sister.
Thanks for sharing your memories, your thought and your loss with us.
Rob Welsh 5 years in the past from Tomorrow – In Words 5 years ago from TEXAS
Kathy, thanks so much I think it’s form of my method of dealing with preliminary grief. I wasn’t in Hubpages then, but I made a webpage in memory of my darling George quickly after his loss of life. The funeral residence was making a keepsake DVD about him and requested for some photos. I just sent them the link to the page they usually used it nearly verbatim.
It has been very comforting for me to get it collectively and make this web page for Ruth. It is a bit hard to explain however perhaps it would not want clarification. Thank you.
AuthorNellieanna Hay 5 years ago from TEXAS
Augustine, thank you, dear sir. The artistic streak has always run excessive among us, for positive. This has been a most superb 15 or so hours since I realized of Ruth’s death. Several momentous good developments in my relationships throughout the family. One by no means is aware of.. . . .
Kathy 5 years in the past from The gorgeous Napa Valley, California
What a gorgeous hub, Nellieanna. Simply lovely. Soulful..and I like the images..plenty of family history. You’ve my sympathy in your loss. Kathy
Augustine A Zavala 5 years in the past from Texas
Nellieanna, my condolences on the passing of your sister.
You and your loved ones are photogenic! I can see the artistic streak operating through you and your sister. One thing I that seemed to be/is a constant in your lives is that you’ll reside it to your fullest. I’m in awe. God bless…